One of the most satisfying outcomes of real, honest, sincere talking is that it offers a chance at resolution and eventual reconciliation. When we are on talking terms with the people around us, we get to know them better and see things as they are. We are able to confront ourselves and others and talk things out or through to iron out misunderstandings and misperceptions. It’s inner freeing. And, if we are in the wrong, we can quickly set it right.
Isn’t that what I John 1: 9 means? ” If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” “Purify us from all unrighteousness” means that He we will help us improve. It offers a new start for a better future, when we make things right.
I am no expert in this matter. I am a social talker, but at work I am not. I am very focussed and driven and generally am too stressed out to communicate well! As a result, I was faced with problems I did not handle well at first. Once I learned the need to talk, however, things eventually resolved. I am sharing from my experiences because, I think, it will help others.
When we don’t talk honestly, estrangement persists. I have lost a couple of “friends” simply because we couldn’t talk. When people don’t want to have a real communication with you, it is likely that they have something to hide and they don’t want to reveal it to you probably because they don’t trust you. If people don’t trust you, how can they be friends?
People are hurt and they carry that hurt into their relationships. In Christian communities, we feel more hurt because we feel God should have removed it but the hurt is still there. To add insult to injury, we are also expected to serve and give in spite of it, all in the name of God. We feel used and far from being blessed even if God blesses us with health and wealth. We want God to take the hurt away but that won’t happen because He expects us to make it right, and quickly. That is part of the ministry of being in the Body of Christ. Settle issues with one another quickly.
It is human to err. But, the moment God shows us the wrong, we should move swiftly to resolve it and make things right again, which we can do only if we are talking with one another! I believe our hearts will truly be blessed and serving and giving will come freely from an open heart.
Perhaps, that is what our Lord meant when He said in John 5: 23-24: “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”
First be reconciled and then offer the gift! The “gift” can also mean our service to Him. Whatever we give will then come from a free heart and our worship will be true.